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Mgwirizano Watsopano Waukwati Wachisilamu ndi Kutha kwa Mabanja

Ukwati weniweni wa Asilamu umadziwika kuti nikah. Ndi mwambo wosavuta, womwe mkwatibwi safunikira kukhalapo bola ngati atumiza mboni ziwiri ku mgwirizano wokonzekera. Nthawi zambiri mwambowu umakhala ndi kuwerenga Qur'an, ndi kusinthana malumbiro pamaso pa mboni kwa onse awiri.

M'malamulo achisilamu (sharia), ukwati (nikāḥ نکاح) ndi mgwirizano walamulo ndi chikhalidwe pakati pa anthu awiri. Ukwati ndi mchitidwe wa Chisilamu ndipo ukulimbikitsidwa kwambiri. Polygyny imaloledwa mu Chisilamu nthawi zina, koma polyandry ndi yoletsedwa.

Asilamu ambiri amakhulupirira ukwati ndi maziko omangira moyo. Ukwati ndi mgwirizano wapakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi kuti azikhala pamodzi ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi. Mgwirizano waukwati umatchedwa nikah. khala okhulupirika kwa wina ndi mnzake kwa moyo wawo wonse.

Mu Qur'an, Amuna achisilamu amaloledwa kukhala ndi akazi anayi, bola atha kuchitira aliyense mofanana. Izi zimatchedwa mitala. Komabe, ngati sangathe kuwachitira mofanana, amuna achisilamu akulangizidwa kukhala ndi mkazi mmodzi yekha, ndipo izi ndizochitika m’magulu ambiri amakono achisilamu. Akazi achisilamu amaloledwa kukhala mwamuna mmodzi yekha.

Pambuyo pa chilengezo chachisudzulo, Chisilamu chimafuna nthawi yodikira kwa miyezi itatu (yotchedwa iddah) chilekanocho chisanathe. Panthawi imeneyi, okwatiranawo akupitirizabe kukhala pansi pa denga lomwelo, koma amagona padera. Izi zimapatsa okwatiranawo nthawi yoti akhazikike mtima pansi, kuunikanso ubalewo, mwinanso kuyanjanitsa.

The Bungwe la Omasulira Achiarabu yangotulutsa kumene mgwirizano wazilankhulo ziwiri wa mgwirizano waukwati ndi chisudzulo m'kaundula wake waukwati ndi chilekano.

Ndi maukwati angati mu Chisilamu?

Zolinga zina ndi monga; kuyanjana, kuberekana, kukhazikika, chitetezo, chuma chogwirizana, chithandizo chakuthupi, ndi “chikondi.” Maukwati ali amitundu iwiri; mkazi mmodzi ndi mitala.

Nthawi zambiri, Asilamu amauzidwa kuti asakumane ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo asanalowe m'banja ndipo amatsutsidwa kukayikira malingaliro awa. Zoonadi, Chisilamu chimatiphunzitsa kuti chikondi ndi chachifundo, chopatsa thanzi komanso choyera. Kukumana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi musanalowe m'banja ndikololedwa kwathunthu ndipo kumaloledwa ngati kuchitidwa ndi zolinga zoyenera komanso moyenera.

Chisilamu chimalimbikitsa anthu kuti akwatirane ali aang'ono kuti asagwe m'chiyeso cha chiwerewere asanalowe m'banja. Ndizovomerezeka kuti Asilamu achichepere ayambe chibwenzi chazaka zakutha msinkhu ngati akumva kuti ali okonzeka kutsatira malamulo onse ndi maudindo omwe amabwera nawo.

Ngakhale kuti sichilimbikitsidwa, Asilamu ambiri amavomereza zimenezo Chisudzulo chimaloledwa ngati ukwati watha, ndipo nthawi zambiri Asilamu amaloledwa kukwatiranso ngati akufuna. Komabe, pali kusiyana pakati pa Asilamu pa nkhani ya chisudzulo ndi kukwatiranso: Asilamu a Sunni safuna mboni.

Kodi Allah akunena chiyani za kusudzulana?

[2:226-227] Amene afuna kuwasiya akazi awo, adikire miyezi inayi (kuzizira); Ngati asintha malingaliro awo ndi kuyanjanitsa, ndithudi, Mulungu Ngokhululuka, Ngwachisoni. Ngati athetsa Chilekanirocho, Mulungu Ngwakumva, Ngodziwa.

mutu, (Chiarabu: “pleasure”) m’malamulo a Chisilamu, ndi ukwati wosakhalitsa umene umakhalapo kwa nthawi yochepa kapena yoikika ndipo umaphatikizapo kupereka ndalama kwa mkazi kapena mwamuna wake. Mut’ah akutchulidwa mu Qur’an (malembo achisilamu) m’mawu awa: ukwati wa Shi’i.


Ukwati Kopita nawonso ndi bizinesi yayikulu kwa Maanja achisilamu.

Kuchokera ku United States kupita ku Middle East mpaka ku South Asia, Chisilamu chimafalikira m'madera osiyanasiyana a ndale ndi chikhalidwe chokhala ndi otsatira komanso machitidwe osiyanasiyana monga mayiko omwe akuchokera. Ukwati mu Chisilamu umawonedwa ngati udindo wachipembedzo, mgwirizano pakati pa awiriwo ndi Allah. Kaya wina akukonzekera ukwati wachisilamu kapena kupita ku ukwati wanu woyamba wachisilamu, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa miyambo yakale komanso chikhalidwe chaukwati wachisilamu. Kuphunzira za miyambo imeneyi kungakuthandizeni kusankha zomwe mungaphatikize muukwati wanu kapena kukutsogolerani pazomwe mungayembekezere mukapita ku ukwati wachisilamu.

Zotsatira

Chofunikira pa maukwati achisilamu ndicho kusaina pangano laukwati. Miyambo yaukwati imasiyana malinga ndi chikhalidwe, gulu lachisilamu, komanso kusunga malamulo olekanitsa amuna kapena akazi. Maukwati ambiri sachitikira m’misikiti, ndipo amuna ndi akazi amakhala olekana panthawi ya mwambo ndi madyerero. Popeza Chisilamu sichiletsa atsogoleri achipembedzo, Msilamu aliyense amene amamvetsetsa miyambo yachisilamu akhoza kuchititsa ukwati. Ngati mukuchititsa ukwati wanu mu mzikiti, ambiri ali ndi akuluakulu aukwati, otchedwa qazi kapena Madhu, omwe angathe kuyang'anira ukwatiwo.

Ngati ukwati wachisilamu ukachitika mu mzikiti, alendo amayembekezeredwa kuvula nsapato zawo asanalowe mu mzikiti.

Meher

Mgwirizano waukwati umaphatikizapo meher—chikalata chosonyeza ndalama zimene mkwati adzapereke kwa mkwatibwi. Pali magawo awiri kwa Meher: malipiro ofulumira ukwati usanathe ndipo ndalama zochedwetsedwa zimaperekedwa kwa mkwatibwi m'moyo wake wonse. Masiku ano, maanja ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mpheteyo ngati nthawi yofulumira chifukwa mkwati amaipereka pamwambo. Ndalama yochedwetsedwayo ingakhale ndalama zochepa—mwamwambo—kapena mphatso yeniyeni yandalama, malo, zodzikongoletsera, ngakhale maphunziro. Mphatsoyo ndi ya mkwatibwi kuti agwiritse ntchito mmene angafunire pokhapokha ngati ukwatiwo utatha. Meher amatengedwa ngati chitetezo cha mkwatibwi ndi chitsimikizo cha ufulu m'banja.

Ukwati

Mgwirizano waukwati umasainidwa pamwambo wa nikah, momwe mkwati kapena womuyimira akufunsira mkwatibwi pamaso pa mboni ziwiri, kufotokoza zambiri za Meher. Mkwati ndi mkwatibwi amasonyeza ufulu wawo wosankha mwa kubwereza mawu akuti qabul (“Ndikuvomereza,” m’Chiarabu) katatu. Kenako okwatiranawo ndi mboni ziwiri zachimuna asaina panganolo, kupangitsa ukwatiwo kukhala wovomerezeka malinga ndi malamulo a boma ndi achipembedzo. Potsatira miyambo yachisilamu, mkwati ndi mkwatibwi akhoza kugawana chipatso chotsekemera, monga deti. Ngati amuna ndi akazi alekanitsidwa pamwambowo, woimira mwamuna wotchedwa wali amachitira mkwatibwi pa nthawi ya nikah.

Malonjezo ndi Madalitso

Wothandizira atha kuwonjezera mwambo wina wachipembedzo wotsatira nikah, yomwe nthawi zambiri imaphatikizapo kubwereza Fatihah - mutu woyamba wa Quran - ndi durud (madalitso). Mabanja ambiri achisilamu sabwereza malumbiro; koma amamvetsera pamene wantchito wawo akulankhula za tanthauzo la ukwati ndi udindo wawo kwa wina ndi mzake ndi Allah. Komabe, akwatibwi ndi akwati achisilamu ena amanena malumbiro, monga kubwereza kofala uku:
Mkwatibwi: “Ine, (dzina la mkwatibwi) ndikukukwatirani molingana ndi malangizo a Qur’an ndi Mtumiki woyela, mtendere ndi madalitso zikhale pa iye. Ndikulonjeza, moona mtima komanso moona mtima, kuti ndidzakhala kwa inu mkazi womvera komanso wokhulupirika.”
Mkwati: "Ndikulonjeza, moona mtima komanso moona mtima, kuti ndidzakhala kwa inu mwamuna wokhulupirika ndi wothandiza."

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