Mtendere ndi Ulendo: Relational Mindfulness ndi Relational Intelligence

World Tourism Network member Dr. Birgit Trauer responded to the WTN kuyitanitsa ndemanga pa Peace Through Tourism ndikufotokozera:

Poganizira zamtendere ndi zokopa alendo, nthawi zonse ndimadzifunsa kuti: Ndiyambira pati?

Mfundo zonse ziwiri, zokopa alendo ndi mtendere, zili ndi mbali zambiri. Ndikukhulupirira kuti onsewa akuyenera kuwonetseratu zomwe zimapitilira zithunzi zomwe zili m'chifaniziro ndi chikondi.

Dr. Birgit Trauer, The Cultural Angle, Australia – World Tourism Network (WTN)

Membala Woyambitsa: Dr. Birgit Trauer ali ndi mbiri yakale paulendo ndi zokopa alendo, m'makampani ndi maphunziro. Iye ali ndi PhD mu Tourism Management kuchokera ku yunivesite ya Queensland, Australia ndipo wakhala ndikugwira ntchito ku United Arab Emirates, Germany, England, New Zealand, Canada, ndi Australia. Birgit Trauer adasindikiza m'mabuku apamwamba padziko lonse lapansi […]

Ngakhale kuti zokopa alendo zikupitiriza kuonedwa ngati mphamvu yamtendere ndi kukhazikika, n'zovuta kunyalanyaza kuti lingaliro ili ndi losalimba - monga momwe ofufuza osiyanasiyana adakambirana komanso monga momwe tingawonere, mwachitsanzo, paziwonetsero zomwe zili pansi pa mbendera ya zokopa alendo. kopita padziko lonse lapansi.

Palibe kukayika kuti umunthu ukuyenda.

Zokopa alendo zimakambidwa ngati gulu lodziyimira lokha, komabe ndi gawo laling'ono la anthu onse. Ziribe kanthu kuti tingakhale ndi gawo lotani pa gawo la zokopa alendo, ndikofunikira kukumbukira izi ndikuyang'ana kwambiri zochitika zatanthauzo ndi zopindulitsa kwa onse okhudzidwa.

Mtendere, osati wokhudza zokopa alendo koma mwachizoloŵezi, ukhoza kuwonedwa ngati chisonyezero cha malingaliro a munthu payekha ndi gulu ndi khalidwe lomwe limaphatikizapo kulolerana ndi kulemekeza ena. Mtendere umasonyeza kuvomereza kuyankha ndi udindo pazochitika zathu wina ndi mzake ndi chilengedwe chathu. Popanda mfundo zazikuluzikuluzi, mikangano imatha kubuka mwachangu pakati pa okhudzidwa ndi zokopa alendo.

Chuma chosagwirizana, kusowa mwayi wopeza zinthu, malingaliro osiyanasiyana adziko lapansi ndi zikhalidwe, komanso mphamvu ndi kuwongolera zimazindikirika ngati zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano muubwenzi wamitundu yonse pamilingo yaying'ono ndi yayikulu.

Poganizira za kusagwirizana ndi kusagwirizana kumene tikuona padziko lonse lapansi, tingadzifunse kuti: Kodi timatsatira mfundo zimene timalengeza, osati mtendere?

Monga mmene Mlembi Wamkulu wa bungwe la United Nations, a Kofi Annan, anasonyezera mu 2003 kuti: “Tiyenera kudzifufuza tokha kuti tikufuna kutsatira mfundo za makhalidwe abwino zimene timalengeza, pa moyo wathu watokha, m’madera komanso m’mayiko athu.”

Kwa ambiri, mawu akuti mtendere amakopa chidwi cha mtendere wakunja, ku zomwe zikuchitika padziko lapansi, makamaka masiku ano pamene sitingathe kuthawa nkhani za nkhondo zazikulu m'madera osiyanasiyana padziko lapansi. Koma palinso mtendere wamkati, mtendere pamlingo wamkati mwamunthu, womwe umadziwika kuti umakhudza thanzi lamunthu komanso chikhalidwe cha anthu.

Pamene tikuyenda m'moyo, tonse timalimbana nthawi zosiyanasiyana ndi mafunso amkati oti ndife ndani komanso omwe tikufuna kukhala, zomwe timalakalaka m'moyo, komanso zosowa zathu ndi zomwe timayendera. Tikhoza kudabwa ngati khalidwe lathu likugwirizana ndi zomwe timayendera, chikhalidwe cha madera omwe tikukhalamo, komanso, malinga ndi zokopa alendo, zomwe zimakondedwa kumalo oyendayenda.

Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti mtendere wamkati ndi wakunja supezeka paokha. Ndi mtendere wathu wamkati womwe umatilola kuti tizichita zinthu mogwirizana ndi chifundo, chifundo, kuphatikizika, ndi kugawana umunthu.

Lens yolumikizana imapereka mwayi wowunikira zosowa zathu ndi zomwe timakhulupirira, lingaliro lakutengapo mbali kwapayekha ndi gulu, ndi mabungwe ndi utsogoleri m'moyo wonse komanso muzokopa alendo.

Kukulitsa ndi kuchita chidwi ndi ubale ndi luntha laubale kumakweza luso lathu loyang'anira dziko lathu lamkati ndi lakunja. Potengera chidwi chathu, kulimba mtima, ndi kudzipereka kuchitapo kanthu pa zomwe zimalimbikitsa lingaliro la mtendere, timalemekeza kufunikira kwa mgwirizano ndi maubale athanzi mu ukonde wa moyo.

Monga katswiri wodziwika bwino waku Belgian-American psychotherapist komanso katswiri wa ubale, Esther Perel amajambula bwino kwambiri, "Ubwino wa maubale athu umatsimikizira moyo wathu."

Ndi luso laubwenzi labwino kwambiri, titha kulimba mtima kusamala ndikulumikizana moona. Tingasankhe kuchita zinthu mwachikondi osati chifukwa cha mantha. Titha kuwonetsa makhalidwe abwino omwe amagwirizana ndi mfundo zomwe zimalimbikitsa malingaliro amtendere wamkati ndi kunja kwa zokopa alendo ndi kupitirira.